(This piece was originally published in Elephant Journal and is shared here in an adapted form for my therapy blog.) There is a way conflict can sound calm, fair, and emotionally mature while quietly eroding clarity. It often shows up as neutrality: “We both played...
This post reflects personal reflections and professional insight on a topic many of us carry silently: overfunctioning. It is not a substitute for therapy, but an invitation to begin or deepen your healing journey. When Strength Becomes Survival: Letting Go of Overfunctioning For as long...
The Issue Isn’t the Issue. The Judgment Is. We spend so much energy circling the surface problem—the lie, the drink, the tantrum, the mess. We tell ourselves, If I could just fix this one thing, everything would get better. But often, the issue isn’t the...
Letting Go of the Hope for Resolution For a long time, I believed things would finally settle when they understood my perspective—when an ex-partner, a friend, a coworker, or a family member recognized the impact of their behavior and acknowledged the truth I had been...