On change, loss, death, and rebirth
The Unavoidable Truth of Loss
Loss is a natural part of life—but one that many of us never fully learn to embrace. At its core, loss is any moment of change: a shift in season, a goodbye we didn’t expect, or a slow unraveling of who we once were.
People evolve. Relationships shift. Homes are left. Careers transition. Identities we once clung to begin to dissolve. Even our physical bodies participate in this rhythm—every seven years, our cells regenerate, reminding us that change is quite literally woven into our biology.
And yet—we resist.
Why We Resist Change
As a trauma-informed therapist—and as someone who has walked through personal transformations—I understand resistance. It’s a form of protection. We tighten our grip not because we’re flawed, but because we’re afraid. Afraid of what we’ll feel. Afraid of what we’ll lose. Afraid of who we’ll become if we let go.
But this resistance, while understandable, is costly. It can keep us stuck in cycles of grief, fear, or longing. It keeps us anchored to the past, even when the future quietly beckons.
The Power of Surrender
There’s a word I return to often—both in my personal healing and in my work with clients: surrender.
To surrender is not to give up. It’s to stop bracing. To stop fighting the current. It is the radical act of trusting that something meaningful is taking shape, even in the midst of pain.
Surrender happens slowly. It might come through grief. Through therapy. Through the quiet moments we sit with ourselves in the dark and dare to feel what’s there. It may even arrive through anger—the sacred kind that clears the fog and reveals what we’ve outgrown.
From Endings to Emotional Rebirth
Loss shows up in many forms:
The death of a loved one
A shift in beliefs
A life transition that alters everything you knew
And with each ending comes a subtle invitation: to be reborn. Not into someone new—but into someone deeper, softer, wiser. Someone more aligned with what matters.
There is reverence in endings. Reverence in the shedding. Reverence in becoming.
You’re Not Alone in the Transition
If you’re navigating a season of letting go—whether of a person, a version of yourself, or a life chapter that no longer fits—I want you to know this: you’re not alone.
Healing doesn’t demand speed. It asks for presence. It asks you to witness your experience with honesty, even if it’s uncomfortable.
Again and again, I’ve seen this truth emerge in both my personal life and the lives of my clients: when we stop resisting the truth of change, we begin to access resilience. And from that resilience, a more rooted self is born.
Therapy Can Support the Process of Letting Go
Whether you're grieving a loss, facing a major life transition, or moving through emotional rebirth, therapy offers a space for support, clarity, and healing.
I offer virtual therapy across Texas and in-person sessions in Houston. Let’s walk through it together. Book a free 15-minute consultation today.