Originally published in Elephant Journal Anger and rage tend to get a bad reputation—especially when they live in women's bodies . Many of us learn early that anger makes us unlikable, unstable, or unsafe. As little girls, we're taught to soften it or swallow it...
There’s a feeling I’ve had for most of my life — a feeling that connection lived outside of me. Like it was in other people. In relationships. In whether someone stayed, or chose me, or didn’t pull away. And for a long time, I thought...
Awhile back, I wrote about the loneliness of loving an avoidant partner —the quiet ache of being close to someone who can't quite meet you there. This blog is about the version that's hardest to leave. Not the partner who is clearly unavailable. Not the...
The Wound That Doesn't Have a Name Yet Most people understand trauma as something that happens to you — a frightening event, a loss, something that leaves a mark. But there’s another kind of wound that forms differently. Not from fear, but from betrayal. From...