The phrase "nobody is coming to save you" can sound like a verdict on how alone you are. But the truth is that recognizing that no one is coming to make your life right for you is an act of kindness towards yourself. When you...
Why Trauma Survivors May Need Solitude to Heal As a trauma therapist in my early 50s, I recently reached a wall of absolute exhaustion . I have spent close to eight years actively processing my childhood trauma. I have examined my patterns, challenged old beliefs,...
In a recent piece , I wrote briefly about suicidal ideation. I almost removed it. I worried that once I used those words, people might stop hearing the experience behind them. Instead of asking what had made life feel unbearable, they might hear only a...
The Moral Injury Beyond Caregiver Burnout Content note: This article discusses disability caregiving , institutional abandonment, hopelessness, and suicidal ideation. Please read with care. I work with caregivers in my therapy practice and I see how caregiving can collide with codependency, perfectionism, and unresolved trauma....