What a Thanksgiving turkey can teach us about the rules we inherit. There's a story I sometimes tell clients about a little boy watching his mother prepare Thanksgiving dinner. Before putting the turkey in the oven, she cuts off its legs. He asks why. "Because...
It's never really about the wine: how emotional avoidance hides behind independence, ambition, and perfectly reasonable habits. If you've spent any time reading about avoidant attachment, you've probably seen the checklist. He pulls away after closeness. He needs a lot of alone time. He gets...
Have you ever wondered why you can understand your trauma intellectually, recognize your patterns, and know exactly where your reactions come from, yet still find yourself responding in ways you can't seem to control? Maybe you know you're no longer in danger, but your chest...
About eight or nine months ago, I had a dream where I was running down what felt like a freeway. It was wide and open, but half of it was gravel. Loose and unstable, the kind of surface where you have to stay alert because...