Awhile back, I wrote about the loneliness of loving an avoidant partner —the quiet ache of being close to someone who can't quite meet you there. This blog is about the version that's hardest to leave. Not the partner who is clearly unavailable. Not the...
The Wound That Doesn't Have a Name Yet Most people understand trauma as something that happens to you — a frightening event, a loss, something that leaves a mark. But there’s another kind of wound that forms differently. Not from fear, but from betrayal. From...
Sometimes you leave a conversation and something inside you feels off. Nothing dramatic happened. No one insulted you. No obvious line was crossed. The interaction may have even seemed thoughtful or polite. And yet your body feels different afterward — slightly smaller, tight somewhere in...
In a recent piece I wrote for Psychotherapy Networker on recognizing everyday dissociation, I explored the idea that dissociation does not always look dramatic. It does not always look like lost time, total numbness, or completely checking out. More often, it looks ordinary. Dissociation is...