A friend of mine continued to press on me years ago during one of our conversations about something I was struggling with in a relationship at the time. She would say, "but what do you need." She just kept repeating the same question. I'll never...
The Myth That Healing Means Peace For most of my life, I thought healing would feel like lightness—like clarity, calm, and closure. As a therapist, I’ve learned that healing rarely starts with peace. It usually begins with disruption. I thought once I healed, I’d be...
A reflection on sensitivity, depth, and the quiet cost of pretending everything’s fine. I recently published an essay with Elephant Journal called “What It Feels Like to Live on the Surface” . In it, I explore the experience of surface living—why some people thrive there,...
Pain as an Invitation Most of us spend our lives trying to get rid of pain. We numb it, fight it, distract from it. We tell ourselves pain means something is wrong — with us, with our choices, with life itself. But pain can also...