February can amplify loneliness in unexpected ways. For some, it’s the ache of being single in a partnered world. For others, it’s the quieter, more complex ache of being in a relationship that still feels lonely. Both are real. Both are hard. But they are...
When Apologizing Stops Being Repair Apologizing is often framed as emotional maturity. It’s praised as empathy, humility, and accountability. And sometimes, it is exactly that. But for people with histories of trauma, codependency, or chronic self‑blame, apologizing can quietly turn into something else entirely. It...
How Expectations Form in Brainspotting Most people who come to me have never heard of Brainspotting. They don’t arrive with strong assumptions about how it works or what it should feel like. Usually, they’re simply looking for relief and are open to trying something new....
I recently had an essay published on Tiny Buddha about trauma, darkness, and the therapy that helped my nervous system begin to heal. That piece described how sadness moves through me now—what it feels like to meet it differently, without being taken under by it....