The Issue Isn’t the Issue. The Judgment Is. We spend so much energy circling the surface problem—the lie, the drink, the tantrum, the mess. We tell ourselves, If I could just fix this one thing, everything would get better. But often, the issue isn’t the...
Letting Go of the Hope for Resolution For a long time, I believed things would finally settle when they understood my perspective—when an ex-partner, a friend, a coworker, or a family member recognized the impact of their behavior and acknowledged the truth I had been...
A few months ago, I submitted an essay to Elephant Journal titled The Things We Pick Up: On Dreams, Discomfort & the Kind of Love that Stays. I chose the title, sent it off, and promptly forgot about it. Life was full—clients, parenting, and a...
Disclaimer: This piece is not about politics. It’s about psychology, trauma, and the way fear-based systems shape human behavior and belonging. My intention is not to shame or alienate anyone—especially clients or readers who hold different beliefs—but to explore the relational and nervous system dynamics...