When Apologizing Stops Being Repair Apologizing is often framed as emotional maturity. It’s praised as empathy, humility, and accountability. And sometimes, it is exactly that. But for people with histories of trauma, codependency, or chronic self‑blame, apologizing can quietly turn into something else entirely. It...
How Expectations Form in Brainspotting Most people who come to me have never heard of Brainspotting. They don’t arrive with strong assumptions about how it works or what it should feel like. Usually, they’re simply looking for relief and are open to trying something new....
I recently had an essay published on Tiny Buddha about trauma, darkness, and the therapy that helped my nervous system begin to heal. That piece described how sadness moves through me now—what it feels like to meet it differently, without being taken under by it....
(This piece was originally published in Elephant Journal and is shared here in an adapted form for my therapy blog.) There is a way conflict can sound calm, fair, and emotionally mature while quietly eroding clarity. It often shows up as neutrality: “We both played...